Because sometimes you need to just chill the fuck outAt the beginning of every month I have the same conversation with at least seven people.
HOW IS IT *insert month* ALREADY! The year has just flown by! I swear time gets faster!
Now I'm no scientist, (the lure of nice shoes and handbags always entertained me far more than test tubes ever did) but I'm pretty sure these people might just be on to something. Time does seem to be getting faster, and we all seem to have far less of it as consequence. Wakeup, gym, work, eat, do life admin/ take part in hobby/ see friends/ visit parents/ see boyfriend, Tinder date, etc.. repeat. The one hour I spend in the gym a day is suddenly 20 minutes, and the before-bed-browse of Instagram has magically taken me up until 3am instead of 11pm. Like I said, time is getting faster! Weird.
As women, we're constantly trying to prove that yes, we can have it all.
- A successful career
- Romcom-worthy love life
- A squad enviable enough to turn Taylor Swift green with jealousy
- Social feeds that look like they were curated by the art director of a cool indie magazine
- Disposable income dripping from our purses
- A streetstyle-worthy wardrobe
- A Pinterest-perfect apartment (who cares if it's rented?)
Get your ass to the gym
As Elle Woods so rightly said in Legally Blonde, exercise gives you endorphins, and endorphins make you happy, and happy people just don't shoot their husbands. Or in other words, lose their shit quite as much. She was really on to something: thousands of studies have proved the benefit of exercise on a healthy mind and lifestyle. So when you're feeling like you're head is about to explode, get to the gym and pound that treadmill, lift those weights, or downward dog until all of that negative energy has sweated out of your pores.
Tidy shit up
Tidy house, tidy mind, as they say. Clutter really can clutter your head up, so take a break and just get things in order in your surroundings physically, then it'll be a lot easier to do mentally. Plus, the kind of mind-numbing repetitiveness of tidying and cleaning can be pretty therapeutic too.
In the words of Fifth Harmony's killer song, sometimes, it's all in my head (well, yours too). Things overplay and we overthink things because there's only one voice in our heads to answer to. So call your mum or your dad or your best friend just to get it off your chest. It's surprising how many times I've got worked up over something really small, only to actually finally talk about it, then as soon as I've finished I'm totally okay, because simply speaking about it has clarified it's NBD. Friends and family are like free therapy. Use and abuse.
Have a digital detox.Social media can truly be a source of inspiration sometimes - or at least a few lols thanks to the wonderful world of gifs - but other times, it can be a bit of a black hole of comparison. Other peoples perfectly filtered lives always look so much better than yours, and it can leave us feeling super meh. This is when a mini digital detox works best. Give yourself a night away from the computer and your phone and just go off radar for a few. Read a book, take a walk, have a bath, watch a film (without live-tweeting your emotions and reactions.)
If all else fails, retail therapy.
Photography by Rebecca Spencer